It is Never Too Late To Change

Posted on Apr 25, 2020 by Harsha Vardhan (Founder Director & Trainer), Nidhi Agrawal (Co-founder, Director & Trainer)

During personal counselling I am often told by the people that they would love to change the way they are living life but lament that it’s too late. In a few years’ time we’ll have crossed fifty they say. “And what will your age be if you don’t decide to change”? I ask them. You’ll still cross fifty, so why not give it a try……..the truth is it’s never too late to change.

There is no obstacle to changing yourself and change is always possible. You cannot think crooked and walk straight. What you think is what you will become. Don’t allow negativity to hold you back. Be positive and always see the bright side of things…if you want to change, the operative words being “want to”, you can change and you will change.

Set your priorities in order. Rewind your life and reflect on the choices that you have made in the past. Of course you have made mistakes, who doesn’t make them? You cannot be perfect. Perfection just does not exist. There is no harm in making mistakes as long as you are willing to learn from them and stop making them. Just remember that the people who are the happiest are not those who never make mistakes but people who learn to live with them and learn from them. They don’t allow setbacks go to their heart or triumphs to their heads…the secret is to leverage the failures to create new and better opportunities where the mistakes you inadvertently made find no place. What will define you and make you a better person is not how many mistakes you have made but what you have learnt from them. If you are not making mistakes it means that you are leading a stagnant monotonous life. Mistakes means that you are trying to learn something new.

Start by evaluating your friends. Get rid of all those who bring negativity and pessimism into your life. Some people may have caused you considerable hurt or betrayed your trust. It Is hard to forget but it Is easy to forgive. Accept it as a lesson learnt and move on. Tell them this is what you don’t like about them. They may not like it but those who still prefer to stay back as friends will at least be true friends who are willing to accept the new you.

Doubt and hesitation will delay this change. Try to do something that you have never done before. Learn something new…it could be a new recipe, learn how to sew, basic first aid skills or learn how to swim or learn a new language. Get the monotony out of your life. Turn your discomfort zone into your comfort zone.

And finally the most important past of ushering new-found joy into your life and giving it a fresh lease of happiness and contentment is by decluttering your life. Eliminate all that is not required. Simplify your life and focus only on the essentials…just the act of letting go of all that is not required will help you build the life that you need and want.